This week I got a note from a mom who was ecstatic over a giant leap that her son had made toward school success. He’d come home with two progress reports, and although he should have brought home six, we’ll disregard that because, and I quote*…
One of his reports, for English, showed a fairly low average (80%) but I quickly noticed that he had all A’s on every assignment except one which was a 50. So, this convo happened:
Me: “C, what is this 50? What happened?”
C: “Oh, that was a classwork assignment and it was two parts. I only turned in the second part. I asked Ms. G about it when I saw that grade; she told me what I was missing and said I could turn it in late and receive partial credit.”
Me: (trying to contain my shock/excitement that HE noticed the low grade and HE asked the teacher how to remedy it) “Okayyyy, so any chance you can find that assignment?”
C: “Oh! I already did, and I stapled it to the progress report so I could turn it in tomorrow….See?!” And he proceeded to show me the attached sheet with understandable pride.
…This is a huge, ginormous, big-honkin’ deal. Organizing is C’s #1 struggle in school, bar none. Yes, he has a low grade because he failed to turn something in, BUT he took the steps to take care of it with absolutely no help from Mom or Dad. It was as if he matured right in front of my eyes. Oh my stars, I don’t know if a mom has *ever* been so stinkin’ proud of a 50 before!
Organizing. It’s where so many of our ADHD kids fail. It’s the source of frustration, of low grades, low self esteem, family conflicts, and the list goes on.
But occasionally, there is a glimmer of hope, as in the story above. What’s your success story? Please send it to us, so we can share it and rejoice with you.
Hint: Note that C. used a stapler, one of my favorite basic organizing tools. Use one to attach papers to progress reports, lunch money to bookbags (yes, you can), homework assignments to planners.
*Names have been abbreviated for privacy.