The article was discussing how to get ADHD children to get on the band wagon and complete their chores and homework. There was not ONE concrete solution offered. Instead, there was what I will call “drivel”.
I’m paraphrasing, lest you take it upon yourself to Google…”Sit your children down and talk about the situation. Tell them that when they finish their work quickly and efficiently, the family will be happier and can spend more time together.”
Doesn’t that sound like it would work at your house? I had to double check to see if the advice was really given for ADHD children. To me, this advice is like talking to a kid who is nearsighted about how wonderful it would be if she could see clearly. She needs GLASSES!
And our ADHD kids need strategies! So, instead of ranting further (can you tell this really got under my skin?!), here are several strategies that may help your kids to get their work finished on time.
1. Timers. If you haven’t found the timer that works, keep trying. You may need several different types for different situations – or to keep things interesting. Brock mentioned a timer the other day that has proven to be very popular with readers. But don’t forget that your cellphone, your microwave, and even your computer have timers.
2. Consequences. My kids had a certain amount of time to clean up their toys, and at the end of the time, I got rid of the rest.
3. Cooperation. With chores and homework, get in there with your kids. You pay bills while he does math. You fold clothes in the room they are cleaning. Divide up cleaning the kitchen. Read out loud to each other.
4. Minimizing distractions. Turn off the television. And the radio, computer, cell phone. Put the cat in the other room.
5. Lower your expectations. Don’t expect perfection. I’m not saying let your kids do their work halfway. But if your kids fold your towels differently than you, it’s really not a big deal. If your son wants to read Henry Huggins instead of Treasure Island, that’s okay. Make sure your standards are worth it. Read more.
Maybe I’m too practical, or maybe my boys are, but simply talking about the situation rarely helped at our house. I’m not saying that discussion isn’t important. But that’s just the beginning. Sort of like faith without works is dead. It’s like talking about dieting without actually changing the way you eat. Or having a broken washing machine and and simply reading the repair manual. Or…
I’m ranting again.
What’s the most practical hint you’ve learned with your ADHD child? And have you ever had a situation when a frank discussion led to a change in behavior? Tell us about it below!